We parntnered with ADDVANTAGES Learning Center to answer some parents questions about ADD! As a parent of a high energy child, I, myself, have some questions which will help me in this beautiful journey to watch my child grow healthy and happy!
Is Your Child with ADHD or Learning Disabilities Coping with Rejection?
Rejection from peers is something all kids experience at one time or another. Unfortunately, rejection for children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) is often the norm. As tempting as it may be to solve your child’s problem, first think about how the rejection is demonstrated. If it is in the form of harassment, physical abuse, or extreme verbal abuse, it must be reported to school officials or even to law enforcement.
If your child is being rejected by being ignored or is otherwise socially isolated by his peers, it is best to use this experience as an opportunity to learn coping strategies, social skills, and self-reliance. Reporting rejection from peers often increases aggressive behavior from the offenders because they may resent being reprimanded for their behavior. As a parent, you must decide whether or not approaching school officials is best for your child. When approaching school officials to address issues of rejection by isolation, it is best to enlist the help of the school’s guidance counselor to assist with learning the best approach.
Another way to help your child be accepted by his peers is to get the teacher involved by modeling your child’s strengths to the class by assigning him a role in the class that is highly regarded as important to all students. Tasks can be assigned according to the child’s age and classroom jobs. Most importantly, the teacher needs to verbally reinforce the student’s strengths and positive attributes in front of peers. It is crucial for the teacher to create a positive emotional tone and classroom climate for your child by acknowledging him as worthy without making it obvious and singling him out.
In the meantime, get your child involved in some activities outside of school where he can be part of a social group, experience some acceptance, and build self-esteem. Check to see if your community has friendship-building or social skills training groups to enhance your child’s skills and increase his comfort zone when interacting with others. Watch appropriate TV shows that feature children interacting and discuss what they are saying and how they use facial expressions and body language to communicate. For example, Mr. Bean, from the British comedy television series of the same name, solves problems that occur when performing everyday tasks. He doesn’t speak and uses physical humor when interacting with others. Kids of all ages love to watch his antics on YouTube.
At ADDvantages Learning Center we have “virtual reality” social skills training (Marlton location) classes that kids love! It engages their attention while they learn, parents report kids are better able to transfer learned skills to other environments. This modality of instruction allows for faster and deeper generalized learning.
Linda Karanzalis, M.S., is a Learning Specialist, ADHD Coach, and the founder of ADDvantages Learning Center in Cherry Hill, NJ. She specializes in helping both children and adults with ADD/ADHD and learning disabilities to reach their potential. She is a leading expert in the field of ADHD and is the author of a weekly blog for Additude Magazine, nationally printed magazine . For more information go to www.addvantageslearningcenter.com